Science is only starting to catch onto what the Bible has been teaching for decades:
Commitment is the ability to sustain an investment, to honor values over momentary feelings. The irony, of course, is that while we want happiness, it isn't a moment-by-moment experience; the deepest, most enduring form of happiness is the result of sustained emotional investments in other people.
Marriage is about getting over yourself. Happiness is not about focusing on yourself. Happiness is about holding onto your values, deciding who you are and being that person, using your particular talent, and investing in others.
You can't find the perfect person; there is no such thing.
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Reference(s): Marano, Hara E. "The Expectations Trap." Psychology Today Mar.-Apr. 2010: 62-71. Print.
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