So today was my second time using public transportation in Philly...definitely not a fan of it. First my friends and I wandered for an hour in the rain before we found the trolley station. The fare system isn't very convenient; tokens should stay in the past decade. Also the last runs are around 1AM - very early compared to NYC standards. Anyways, my post isn't even meant to be about how the Philly public transportation (Septa) is inferior to NYC's MTA, but about men, or rather boys in this society.

I know, weird switch in topic, but here's what happened. While my friend was buying tokens at the machine at 69th stop. I thought my friend's bag brushed against my bottom (that word appropriate enough?). But I turn and my friend's not that close to me, and then I hear this girl say "I apologize for my friend." It wasn't until I look up to see a guy smirking at me while walking away do I realize what had happened.

At first I was just in shock that that even happened. Really? Philly? I expected that in to happen to me in the crowded subways of NYC first before it would occur in a semi-empty subway station in Philly. Then my second thought was, let it go, it's Halloween, he's probably drunk. In the end I didn't do anything. What could I have done anyways - I'm not one to shout and scream. But what his action did do was made me think.

Why was I so appalled that this happened? Well not that it's okay, but I hear about it all the time, why did it seem like it'd never happen to me? Then I realized it's because I attend a fostering all-women's college and all my male friends are guys I respect. I had forgotten that douches lived in this world. Or rather I knew they existed, but they just seemed so foreign.

On the trolley ride back, the group of guys in front of us were making really vulgar jokes. Cursing really isn't that comical.... And one guy was trying to force himself onto his girlfriend, and all the girl kept saying was "Stop, that hurts." Then later she gave in and leaned on him. What?!? Stand up for yourself! Disgusting, just dump that loser.

Then later that night, at the Haverford Halloween Party, looking around... (I won't mention everything I saw because I'm trying to keep this post as PG as possible) people wearing as little as possible, girls inviting guys into their arms, guys expecting to grind.... This is the atmosphere was had created ourselves, only we were to blame. No wonder guys think that it's okay to do whatever they want to a girl.

I was going to end with this whole rant... the passionate spoken word type of rants but I'm just too tired. All I'll say is this - we need to stop tolerating this kind of behavior.